Cooking Co-dependency Away – Feta Salad with Crispy Vegetable

feta-salad Amounts may vary, depending on the number of people at your table.

  • Tomatoes cut into quarters
  • English cucumbers, sliced
  • Baby carrots
  • Scallions, chopped
  • red peppers
  • Steamed sugar snap peas
  • Kalamata olives
  • feta cheese

Deep fry the following in batches until crispy, drain on paper towels and set aside:

  • 1 large sweet potato, peeled and julienned
  • 2 carrots, peeled and julienned
  • 3-4 leeks, white part only, sliced into matchsticks

Pile the salad greens down the center of a platter, making sure it’s highest in the middle. Scatter the vegetables and feta cheese around the edges of the greens. Gently place the crispy vegetables on top of the greens, drizzle with salad dressing.


  • 1 cup olive oil
  • 1/2 cup red wine vinegar
  • 1 tsp salt
  • 1/4 tsp black pepper
  • 2 tsp Dijon mustard
  • 2 tsp sugar
  • 1 clove garlic, minced

Place ingredients in a mixing bowl, slowly add the olive oil whisking all the while until it thickens.


I was married to not one abuser, not two, but three. I fled from South Africa and from an extremely violent and traumatic marriage to a very well-known Johannesburg personality and resolved to learn a lesson and be more careful next time. In America I met a man who, on the surface, was everything that my second husband was not. Until I owned her own contribution to the dance of abuse I was destined to repeat the pattern. My story exists as proof of this. I am driven to help abused women as I know all too well what it feels like to be misunderstood and ashamed of my inability to let go of a relationship that was killing me. “It’s like wanting to hug a shark – why on earth would anyone do that?” I understand because I have been there, emerged damaged and broken from there and then – heaven forbid – went back! I know what it feels like to yearn for the love of a man who pulled out your hair, spat in your face and tried to choke you. I know what it feels like to tell people you are back there and watch their faces and see them thinking, “then you deserve what you get!” By telling my story, I hope to lift the veil of shame off abuse and encourage women to do the same. Un-silencing the voice is where true healing begins.

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